Relationship Manifestor & Creator of Joy
19th January 2017
Who doesn’t love the saying ‘new year, new you’? Is there anything more inspiring than seeing those words in italics across an image of a waterfall…. probably not!
If you’re anything like me, I’ll bet you spend most of January saying it at every available opportunity, but what does it actually mean and how much effort does it really require?
Well I guess it means, ‘new year, better you’. Or a ‘you’ that is more in line with the person you would like to be. Some people are put off by new years resolutions, feeling that they are a waste of energy, but the new year is as good a time as any to take stock and re-evaluate your goals.
So, what are the best ways to ensure that your new year goals will be achieved?
This means that you’ll have to make some decisions about how you are going to make your goals happen. It is proven that committing your goals to paper makes them 42% more likely to happen.
Imagine your goal sitting at the top of a flight of stairs and you are at the bottom. Conceiving the goal gets you on to the first step, writing it down is the second step, etc.
So, you have physicalized your goal. In other words, you have successfully created something tangible to hold yourself accountable to.
However, if you write your goal on a scrap piece of paper, in pencil and pop it in a draw, then you are subconsciously not placing much importance on achieving it.
If you write your goal on a wall in permanent marker in a place that you’ll look every day, your goal will move into reality at a much faster rate.
This is because size matters. It’s all about keeping your goal at the fore front of your mind! The more you think about it, declare it, and make your decisions around it, the more real your goal becomes.
By talking about your goals openly, you further commit to yourself and others that you are aspiring to something! They may be able to support you, give you advice, or put you in touch with people/organisations that can help you.
In addition to this you are further ensuring that your goal is firmly in your consciousness.
By publicly declaring your goal, you are making it acceptable for people to expect to see results, and to potentially call you out if there aren’t any.
Let’s take social media as an example. On the 1st Jan 2017, you post that you pledge to lose 2 stone in the up and coming year. The first time you write this goal down you decide to outline your plans with more detail, For Example:
I will have lost one stone by June by eating healthily and training for a 10k in April. I will then start training for a ½ marathon in October and will have completed my weight loss goal of 2 stone by December 1st 2017.
To commit further I will sign up to these races now and start planning my nutritional/training programme.
This is a great example of how you can break your goals down into smaller mile stones that are much less daunting.
If on the 10th Jan, rather than posting something about your first run of the year you post a picture of a huge desert that you are about to devour, you are sub-consciously telling people not to take you or your goals seriously.
There is no point having a goal and taking no action to make it happen. By telling others you are more likely to receive support and therefore succeed… however, no one can do the work for you!
If you wish to become a better you, it’s only you that can make changes to the “current” you.
By this I mean get involved in making the goals of others a reality. Supporting your friends and family in their resolutions will help you see how things can move forward. It will also encourage others to support you.
It is for this reason that slimming clubs and running groups make you far more likely to succeed in running or losing weight than if you go it alone. The energy of others will inspire and motivate you!
Groups also help you keep your goals in perspective. You may have days when you feel like giving up, but with any luck, on this same day one of your supporters may make some huge progress. This can act as the push you need to keep on striving.
Try as I might to make declarations of my goals on social media, it is just not me. I tend to be far more private in all aspects of my life and only share most things with close friends and family. Having said that, I tend to find it quite easy to make things happen.
This is because I have done a lot of work on my inner confidence and personal power.
Working on inner confidence can be a very tricky thing and is definitely worth investing time and money in if you feel it is something that’s holding you back.
At Inspire Me, we have started to offer amazing voice and confidence days which look at improving the way you feel about yourself. They are also great for harnessing your personal power which is present in all of us.
So, don’t refrain from making new year’s resolutions because you expect yourself to fail. Take the risk, do the work and become a better you! Remember it doesn’t have to be January to pledge to make positive changes in your life.
Another great thing to remember; if something is easy, it can’t be that worth having! The harder you work, the bigger your challenge, the better you will feel when you eventually achieve it.
Life is too short to put your goals on hold for yet another year. Believe in yourself! Believe in others! Don’t let your fears and attitude hold you back! Remember, new year, new you!
Thanks for reading.